Remembering

Four years ago tonight, I went to bed and still had two living sisters. That all changed by four years ago tomorrow.  In some ways it seems like a lifetime since she has been gone because so much has happened. And then other days it feels like just yesterday that she was dancing at my wedding.

I am going to try not to dwell on it too much and instead trying to focus on these two amazing little girls that bless our life. But this time of year comes at me like a freight train each year. It approaches slowly, where I can feel the vibration slowly reverberating through my life. But then as it draws closer, its impact can't be denied and I just want it to pass.

So here's what I want to ask each of you reading this - try to live your life without regret.

I regret that I didn't call more. Yes - phones ring both directions, but I could have been the one to dial her more.

I should have tried to go see her more. Again - planes fly both ways, but she was my baby sister and I should have just gone and done it instead of letting a year at a time go by between visits.

You never know when the people you love will leave you. If there's someone you've been meaning to call, use this post as a reminder to do it. Let them hear your voice and know you're thinking of them.

If there's someone you've been estranged from and you regret it, mend fences. Life is far shorter sometimes than we ever realize and you will regret losing the time one day.

I also ask you to think good thoughts for my family as we think back to the light that went out way too soon and try to fill our day with things that will distract us from dwelling.